My boyfriend cheated on her hand... and our relationship has never been happier!

Why men should use a masturbator (and why it changed our married life)

If someone had told me a few years ago that I'd be writing a blog about male masturbators, I'd probably have laughed. Not out of embarrassment, but simply because, like many women, I didn't really see the point. For me, masturbation was a simple thing: a hand, a moment to yourself, and that was it. But that was before my boyfriend discovered the world of masturbation... and I realized just how beneficial it could be, both for him and for us as a couple.

A surprising discovery

My boyfriend and I have been together for ten years. In other words, we've been through all the phases: the passion of the early days, the routine, the crazy moments, the lows... And like all couples, our sexuality has evolved over time. We've always been open to exploration, but I'd never really thought about whether he needed something new on his own.

It was while chatting with a friend (yes, guys do talk about it!) that he became interested in masturbators. He told me about it, a little hesitantly, as if he was afraid I'd take it the wrong way. But frankly, why would I be against it? After all, I've got toys myself and it's never taken anything away from our intimacy.

More than just a "gadget

I think there's a tendency to see masturbators as something for guys in need or bachelors. But in reality, it's anything but. For my boyfriend, it was a real revelation. He told me that it allowed him to vary his sensations, explore his pleasure in a different way, and even improve his stamina (and believe me, I quickly saw the difference!).

What also struck me was the extent to which it enabled him to reconnect with his own body. Often, men are a bit in automatic mode when they masturbate. With a masturbator, he took the time to discover what he really liked, to experiment, to slow down... And that had a direct impact on our intimate life.

A boost for libido and complicity

Far from being a "threat" to our relationship, his masturbator became an ally. Firstly, because he no longer feels the pressure of having to rely on our time together to satisfy his desire. And also because he feels more at ease with his body and his pleasure.

And let's be honest: it's also made me want to explore with him. We have fun testing together, we talk about it freely, and it's even allowed us to introduce other little games into our sexuality. In short, it's a win-win situation.

Gentlemen, be daring!

If you're skeptical, I urge you to give it a try. And ladies, don't think of it as a competitor, but as one more tool to help your partner feel good about her body and your relationship. After all, we've got our toys and we don't have to question anything, do we?

So why shouldn't they? 😉